Motherhood / Fate of a woman
...only if you realize!
I came across this little article written by Chetan Bhagat and it makes a lot of sense to me. Being a woman is special - you have to feel it within to actually live the life you want to.
We moms usually get tied up in doing things for the babies and rest of the family that we tend to forget that we have a Life too - we have/had choices too. And that becomes a way of life and we get okay with others having expectations from us, denying ourselves with what we like, giving up our own independent self for the family, doing more than what your body and mind can handle. Until one fine day we wake up realizing we are too far away from the shore and even if you shed a tear or two no one comes to help.
Just to not reach that breakdown point in life - you should always strive to have a fine balance between your personal and professional life. Your family and friends. Your choices and your family's needs. You really need to take a break before it breaks you!
If you are strong and your kids see you growing up taking care of yourself , you and spouse sharing responsibilities, I am sure we would raise strong and responsible lil humans and that's exactly what we need.
**Chetan Bhagat’s Suggestion For Women To Reduce Stress Will Touch Your Soul.**
Do Read it and share it with all the women you know..
Alright, this is not cool at all. A recent survey by Nielsen has revealed that Indian women are the most stressed out in the world: 87% of our women feel stressed out most of the time. This statistic alone has caused me to stress out. Even in workaholic America, only 53% women feel stressed.
What are we doing to our women? I’m biased, but Indian women are the most beautiful in the world. As mothers, sisters, daughters, colleagues, wives and girlfriends – we love them. Can you imagine life without the ladies?
For now, i want to give Indian women five suggestions to reduce their stress levels.
One, don’t ever think you are without power. If your mother in law doesn’t like you. Leave her views for her. Be who you are, not someone she wished you would be. She doesn’t like you? That’s her problem.
Two, if you are doing a good job at work and your boss doesn’t value you -tell him that, or quit. Talented, hard-working people are much in demand.
Three, educate yourself, learn skills, network – figure out ways to be economically independent. So next time your husband tells you that you are not a good enough wife, mother or daughter-in-law, you can tell him to take a hike.
Four, do not ever feel stressed about having a dual responsibility of family and work. It is difficult, but not impossible. The trick is not to expect an A+ in every aspect of your life. You are not taking an exam, and you frankly can’t score cent per cent (unless you are in SRCC, of course). It is okay if you don’t do four dishes for lunch, one can fill their stomach with one. It is okay if you don’t work until midnight and don’t get a promotion.
Nobody remembers their job designation on their dying day.
Five, most important, don’t get competitive with other women. Someone will make a better scrapbook for her school project than you. Another will lose more weight with a better diet.
Your neighbor may make a six-dabba tiffin for her husband, you don’t – big deal.
Do your best, but don’t keep looking out for the report card, and definitely don’t expect to top the class. There is no ideal woman in this world, and if you strive to become one, there will be only one thing you will achieve for certain – stress.
So breathe, chill, relax. Tell yourself you are beautiful, do your best and deserve a peaceful life.
Anybody trying to take that away from you is making a mistake, not you. Your purpose of coming to this earth is not to please everyone. Your purpose is to offer what you have to the world, and have a good life in return. The next time this survey comes, i don’t want to see Indian women on top of the list. I want them to be the happiest women in the world.
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About the author -
Shaveta Marwaha works full time at RBS and is a mom to a naughty lil one but manages to do what she loves the most. This one is written on one of those rare days when her lil one planned to go to bed early ~